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Ethnicity: White Body Type: Atheletic Children: Love kids, but not f Sexual Orientation: No Answer I'm here for: Friends Education: College grad Religion: Christian Smoking: No Drinking: Yes

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Hi All. I am 41 yrs old my home is in California, but for the summer this year I'm not sure where I might end up maybe one of the Greek Islands, or The French Rivera. I spend time on Holiday each year in St Thomas, St. John, and the Hawaian Islands. At least in the Virgin Islands 2-3 weeks each year, and 4-5 trips to Hawaii from 4 days to 7-8 days each trip. My one and only true love ended tragically after I was dropped off at the airport when I was 33 by a drunk driver. I use to spend time between our two places so this was nothing out of the normal week of our schedule since we lived in two different cities. To date I have not really felt like anything, or anyone other then friendship. I spend my time doing the following surfing (since I was a little boy 8yr old), Volley ball, water & snow skiing, along with tennis. These are a few of the top of a lot of favorite things I like to do to keep busy. I also spend about 2-4 months each year Traveling My friends and family say that most of this is just me trying to dull the pain of a broken, or shattered Heart beyond recognition. After a long journey working my way through the different levels of the grieving process for the loss of a love, I now feel I’m at a point to move in different areas. I have been trying to help pass laws to increase Drinking and driving punishment with harder, and longer sentences, and more support for survivors of their victims. Many agonizing appearances at court for some justice to be served for what ever you may call this act. At this point, it is not the end, but some closer, until his parole hearing which I feel is very little of me giving back of what I was lucky to get, or be given in Love. I owe my life to a group of very special people, My Family My Father, Mother, Brothers, Aunts, Uncles, and Cousins, A special Thanks to My Grandfather and Fathers since my father passed away not too long ago and my Grandfather not much long after the accident, whom both where always very supportive in every aspect of my life from them, teaching me so many things from riding a bike to learning to drive, and then also being thankful for all that I was able to do that others might not. How the legal system work so you can work within it, and make it work for you. They also helped by getting me started with coin collections at a very young age, and bonds for holidays and birthdays. When others, and I wanted to buy candy, toys, or other junk just because others had it. I also learning to buy stock for my future in stead of buying the candy or toys that I had more then enough of.. Also to donate the things I out grew to others, just because it was the right thing to do. The finical Wisdom which was their strong area, to the emotional issues for/with me which if you knew them might not of been the easiest.. Then the rest of my family, my closest friends and the handful of people who have always been there for me who might not be blood, but I still consider family since they are always there for me and my Family for as long as I can remember. I am blessed and lucky, for all the opportunities I have had or will have, and for all the love around me and for me. Above all the chance to be in love with someone who loved me for me, as much as I loved her for whom she was. Without this love which was a source of strength and a savior that without it, I doubt I would have been able to make it through both then and now. I try to give back the love, or let the one’s who showed or gave me the love how much this was needed, supported or saved me in some way, and each time I get a chance I try and love others the same way I was loved, and still am. . So I am thankful for all this love and try and keep forwarding the love that was given to me to others since, I am not longer able to love some of the ones who have been there for me.. Fortunately, I don't have to work thanks to my Father. His love and wisdom has ensured a comfortable life by way of his support with my finical planning, and some extra he left me, my mom, and brothers. As the New Year started in 2011 I decided my life will be different (or back to what it was before)since I got hung up on so many things, or how things should be, I now have the ability to get back to meeting people and try not to be labeled or label others. I've always tried to live life as all people are equal, and treat others as I want to be treated. People get so hung up on these things. I have decided that as long as you’re a good person and treat others as you want to be treated then that is what really matters. Differences are good and make us who we really are. It shouldn’t matter what are difference are, who your friends are, where you live, who you love, or who you sleep with. At the end of the day, all that matters is, are you happy with yourself? Are you really hurting anyone? I am not talking about hurting someone’s Ideas or religion, which is a personal thing with them and their maker. If you have a problem or question with the last sentence, please read John Stuart Mill below. I Would love to hear from some of you, and/or hear what you think, I hope this wasn’t too preachy/sappy…ect.. Maybe even meet a few of you sometime in the future, never know where our paths might cross. I have/had a wide group of friends and meet people from all over the world, will be happy to meet a handful of people so if you have the time drop me a line. John Stuart Mill (1806-1873) was an English philosopher, political theorist, British civil servant, member of Parliament and a Utilitarian thinker. In his book On Liberty, John Stuart Mill advocates individual rights over majority rule. One key concept that's explored in On Liberty is the idea of "the harm principle." Definition of The Harm Principle The harm principle is the idea that “the only purpose for which power can be rightfully exercised over any member of a civilized community, against his will, is to prevent harm to others.” According to this school of thought, a person can basically do anything he wishes, as long as his actions do not harm others. This belief system holds that, “Over himself, over his own body and mind, the individual is sovereign.” According to the harm principle, people should have individual liberty over the authority of society. Under this theory, individuals believe they should have the freedom to think as they please and one have his own opinions, even if they differ from the opinions of the vast majority in society. Read more at Suite101: John Stuart Mill's Harm Principle http://www.suite101.com/content/john-sturat-mills-harm-principle-a224793#ixzz1Ce0LoJ35

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